Life lessons that led to breakthroughs


It’s been a while since I began noting down every little epiphany, every little lesson, learning that I gather from day to day life. And believe me, it has been so helpful, serving as reminders for when I doubt myself, when I need that little push, or simply when am reflecting.

Let’s go!

The easiest way to make and break relationships with people is to tell the truth

We often try to sugar coat truths, hide how we really feel and so on because we’re afraid of being judged, or afraid of losing the person. Rip the band aid off. It is the best way to cross the fence.

Tell the truth as it is and you’ll then also know who deserves to cross the fence with you.

Rising above something that’s crushing you is very much possible

It’s only a choice that you have to make. Of course, when we’re going through something we are too involved to be able to see the situation from a bird’s eye view. What has helped me in those times is pausing for a breather, acknowledging how I feel and not rejecting myself (what could be worse than us rejecting ourselves?), not taking any decisions at that moment, and then remembering. Read more on that here:

No tomorrow, do it now

Nike puts it simply: Just do it.

Most hesitation comes from some sort of fear, but we should keep reminding ourselves that:

Don’t ignore that little voice. It’s been there ever since we’ve existed and probably before. How can we not trust it? The more we listen to our inner voice and take action right now, the more life gets easier.

Healing happens when we decide we want it

Time heals, but when we let it. Healing can happen like a click in a second or a little longer, but only when we decide we want it.

Healing requires us to make choices, take decisions.

When pain leads to suffering, that suffering becomes a vicious cycle we subconsciously get scared to move out of, because it becomes so familiar. We lose sight of how much better life can be, but once we see that there are two paths to choose from and we choose healing, we will see things changing for the better.

Realizing it was you who picked yourself up out of that dark place is empowering

I often talk about resilience. I am fascinated by how resilient we are as living beings. We underestimate ourselves! Picking up from the previous point, healing happens when we decide we want it and when we decide to pick the path of healing, we are stepping out of that dark place. We might get inspired by someone or a situation, but that moment it clicks is all us. It is a choice we make. Realizing that is oh so empowering. It gives us courage that we are capable of picking ourselves back up every time. It gives us courage to face life and every struggle that comes with it.

Feeling of confinement or being trapped has nothing to do with where you are physically

During the first few years of my time on the wheelchair I was still getting used to it and spent a lot of time at home. If I had a rupee for every time I was asked how I don’t go crazy being at home….

The mind is a beautiful thing if we train it. If we think we’re trapped, we are. If we think we’re free as a bird, we are.

How did I take action?

I figured out what was stopping me from going out- accessibility, fear of being in a helpless situation.

What did I do about it?

Gathered resources and understood how I could make my life more accessible. Put my learnings to action.

Now I don’t feel trapped- whether am at home or outside and if I do, I think in a solution oriented direction and find a way.

Also, having a routine always helps the mind, body and soul be in sync.

Life is beautiful. Even on the bad days. It need not be a drag or a struggle

Need I say more?

Life can’t be perfect and that’s where the beauty lies. We value life when we go through struggles. Time and again I remind myself that a bad phase in life does not mean life itself is bad. And even on those terrible days, we can find things to be grateful for. That helps us bounce back faster.

We’re all different. You do you, and let the inner voice guide you. Every story including yours has room for a better ending.

This post is part of #BlogchatterA2Z

5 Comments Add yours

  1. Matheikal says:

    Wise observations.

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Ruchi says:

    Such a beautiful post. Healing happens when we want it. Very true.

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Leha says:

      Thanks Ruchi!


  3. Suchita says:

    Life is all about choices and living with decisions we have made. Loved this post Leha ❤

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Leha says:

      Thanks Suchita, I like how you said it in a perfect line.

      Liked by 1 person

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